Friendship is the Best Ship of All

Everybody needs a cheerleader!

Everybody needs a cheerleader!

Everybody needs a cheerleader.  Darla has been my cheerleader throughout most of my blogging life.  She has pimped me out many times, entered me in contests, and has always assured me that I am good at what I do.  She is someone who I really think is a great friend.  I was very excited when she jumped up in a hurry to join my guest bloggers week!

Darla’s blog is Mom’s World.  She shares little bits of her life, some of it funny, some of it touching, some of it serious.  It is always entertaining.  Please go check out her blog and tell her I sent you!

Here is a bit about Darla:

Mom of 2, a boy and a girl ♥ Wife since 2000 ♥ Daughter ♥ Granddaughter ♥ Sister ♥ Auntie ♥ Cousin ♥ Niece ♥ Friend ♥ I like my eggs over-hard ♥ I love music but I hate Beyonce ♥ My favorite band is Incubus ♥ I bite my nails when I’m nervous ♥ I pretend to be crafty ♥ I am a football (Vikings) and baseball (Giants)fan ♥ I like to play Bingo and bargain shop at Thrift Stores ♥ I like tattoos and want more, especially a butterfly ♥ I love ice cream ♥ I like daisies and roses ♥ I have anxiety, and my biggest fear is death and flying ♥ My favorite Disney movie is “Alice in Wonderland” ♥ My favorite actors are Leonardo DiCaprio and Jason Bateman ♥ My favorite actresses are Rachel McAdams and Ashley Judd ♥ I love love.

And now, without further ado…

First off – I just have to say THANK YOU to my homegirl Sarah aka The Sadder But Wiser Girl for allowing me to be a guest post-er on her fantastical blog!

Internet-FriendIt’s amazing how quick humans can form a bond with someone. Especially in today’s world where there is more discussion over electronic means than in person.  When I started this blog back in November, I never imagined that I would meet so many awesome people and actually become FRIENDS with some of them! Like, literally “you-know-the-names-of-my-children” friends! Sarah especially, is one true friend. She is so honest and genuine and has this killer sense of humor (which you all see in her blog!).
Being an adult in today’s virtual society, I feel that forming friendships over the ‘net is just as beneficial mentally as an in-person friendship. Now – before everyone gets all worked up over this….being this is my personal opinion and opinions are always evolving, I do feel that the friendships formed really are through common bonds that people share – in person or virtually.
nelson mandelaI’ve been a MySpace-er, Twitter-er, Facebook-er and Blogger. I have never really ‘met’ anyone on MySpace or Twitter, but I have ‘met people on Facebook. The majority of the people I ‘met’ were really out to get “friends” for the games like Farmville and Words with Friends. Those, obviously, are not really ‘friends.’
However, as a Blogger this has been the one is where I’ve actually been able to really feel a connection with people. Making myself open up about my personal history and present life has allowed the opportunity to ‘meet’ people who share the same experiences or feelings or sense of humor or just really connect with my personality.
girls night out
There is this community; fellow bloggers who, like you, open themselves up. You find similarities in life stories, personalities, lifestyles, etc. You’re sharing your feelings you hide from your family because, hey, maybe they understand.
Not only that, but its so opposite from meeting a person, say, at school. You’ve likely never seen them, so if you’ve made any judgement of them, its on the contents of their blog or something along those lines. Your first judgments are on their interests or their personality.
Sure, there are drawbacks. You don’t get the facial clues, you don’t get to laugh at little quirks in their accent, but its just as valid in a completely different way.
good timesIt takes time to work up to even hearing a person’s voice. Everything you know of them prior to this point is (Unless they post pictures of themselves) their personality via what they’ve written. And I think that’s kind of beautiful.
Your first phone call, skype chat, or whatever, is like a brand new first meeting, but you’ve already got all this chemistry and friendship behind you. You start fitting the way you have thought of them in with how they look and sound and you’re getting an even fuller picture of them.
And by then, you’re so much closer. You add the intimacy of voices to the the thoughts and feelings you’ve already been sharing. And you KNOW them, even if you’ve never been within 100 miles of them.
That’s my opinion….what’s yours? How do you feel about internet friendships? Give us a comment and let us know!

17 thoughts on “Friendship is the Best Ship of All

  1. I have met some pretty awesome people online, people I would have never had the chance to meet up with face to face if I had not them online first! Which is why I do not agree with Facebook penalizing people for trying to network online. So thanks for validating my own views on this with your wonderful words.

  2. What I love about blogger friends is that they truly get what fellow bloggers are trying to do: the ups, the downs, the frustrations, the joy of a high pageviews day, the disappointment of a post that doesn’t do well. There have been times when I’ve been ready to quit and been talked out of it. One friend even bought me my domain. Blogging may get difficult but the community is always an encouraging force.

    • Anyone want to buy me a domain? *wink wink*

      It’s nice to know that you are never alone in what you are experiencing as a blogger and as a human being! SOmeone out there has been there or is currently going through the same things. 🙂

  3. Being a stay at home mom can become very lonely. I’ve found so many connections through blogging and couldn’t have done it without some fellow bloggers pushing me along and telling me I can do it. I’m new to the blogosphere but I love it here and plan on staying for quite a while. I so enjoy reading everyone’s stories and relating to them. Sometimes the friend who lives next door doesn’t get what you’re going through but a fellow blogger over 100 miles away does. 🙂

  4. Sarah is a sweetheart and just a Doll!! I do ind it amazing the friendships that bloggers have and the lengths they will go to for one another. Once a blogger said to me “Do you honestly think other bloggers care what I have to say?”
    My jaw hit the floor! Honey, if bloggers don’t care, ain’t NOBODY gonna care what you blog about!!!
    But it does make me very sad that no one can hear my accent online. I am only half of me without it. So glad you are sharing with us this week and that Ms. Sadder but Wiser opened her doors to all of us!! Take care, y’all.

  5. I am truly blessed to have a great friend in Christine! Not only do we share the blog but we also are In Real Life friends . . . but that doesn’t mean that blogging friends aren’t just as much In Real Life. We have met some wonderful bloggers through our Sunday Sips and are working on building friendships with them. It takes a little time but I think we have made quite a few lasting friendships! 🙂

    I don’t know what I would have done when my children were teeny tiny without Facebook. It kept me connected to the real world when I couldn’t leave my house. Actually . . . that’s why I started blogging.

    I can’t imagine life without it!

    Great post!

  6. This is amazing! And so true! I’m going to meet my first blogging friend Snarkfest Blog in May – we’re going to run a half marathon together! WI meet WVA!

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